Tuesday, May 4, 2010
P4E.141 The Best Safety Device is a Careful Man - Part 5
A safe man is careful with: His eyes...
What we do with our eyes can make our wives feel safe or threatened. I should tell you that my own carelessness in this area nearly cost me my marriage. My wife, Gwen, to this day carries deep hurt because of my thoughtless and fleshly ways when it came to my eyes. To Gwen, I may never be considered 'safe' in this area. Only through carefully crafting a new track record do I even have a chance at being considered 'safe.'
We justify what we do with our eyes like this:
'Just because I'm married doesn't mean I'm dead.'
'If I didn't look people would think I'm gay.'
'I'm a MAN and that's what MEN do. It's natural.' (This one is actually true...it is natural but not Godly)
'I can look without being tempted and even if I'm tempted it doesn't mean I've sinned.' (and, worst of all)
'I'm just admiring God's beautiful creation.'
As Ken Nair, founder of Life Partners so often asks, "Would that be your spirit or your flesh talking?"
This worldly view is so contrary to Christ's teaching of "...if thine eye offend thee, pluck it out..." that I must stop and analyse how I do what I do and why I do it.
Let me leave you with these questions:
'How strong is your flesh?'
'If you put your mind to not looking, could you do it?' and finally,
'If you aren't inclined to putting your mind to not looking...why not?'
Be safe, Kim