Thursday, May 20, 2010

P4E.147 The Best Safety Device is a Careful Man - Part 9

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A safe man is careful with: His thought life.

In the last post I wrote:

"...I've descended into my own thought life. I become detached. I stop communicating because I'm concentrating on the mental images and thoughts that are going through my mind. There's a struggle that goes on to maintain a facade of normalcy while my mind degenerates. I go through the physical motions while my mind is distracted and far off. I can get callous and distant."

There's a name for when this goes on in a Believer's life, it's..."poser." Jesus called this condition:

" whitewashed tombs which on the outside appear beautiful, but on the inside they are full of dead men's bones and all uncleanness."

How many times has my wife told me I was:

- 'detached' (how could you not notice that?)
- 'not communicating' (we never talk!)
- 'distant' and 'distracted' (you're here but you're not here!)
- 'forgetful' (how could you forget such an important thing?)

This is another example of my being influenced by "the world's" value system. Our American culture tells us that real men are stoic, men of few words, impassive, unflappable, unemotional, violent rather than communicative, and mysterious. We are told that these are the character qualities that distinguish men from women. We are told that if we express our emotions (other than anger, impatience and frustration) and verbalize what's going on in our minds it is effeminate. And, we Believers have bought it hook line and sinker.

Given that we have adopted the world's perspective on what real men are supposed to be like, is it any wonder, then, that Scripture encourages us this way?:

'For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, says the Lord,'

'And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind , that you may prove what the will of God is, that which is good and acceptable and perfect.'

This means that my natural inclination to be disconnected, detached, uncommunicative, distant, forgetful and violent IS NOT pleasing to God. It also follows that my wife is right and being helpful when she points it out to me! God help me to be grateful for that help and respond by changing my ways to be more like His.

Be safe! Kim


  1. Man, you are talking about me. So many times my wife has to repeat herself two or three (or half a dozen) times before she finally gets through to me. I have to make a real effort to engage my mind to listen. Sometimes that means hitting the mute button on the TV (or on my mind). Thanks, -Richard

  2. Isn't it awful? And I know we aren't the only ones. How can we do that to the ones we love? As they say, familiarity breeds contempt. But, we can resist and push back by changing our actions when we are around our wives. Thanks, Richard!